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2015

Obsessions

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“Twilight Movie/Book Synopsis”

High-school student Bella Swan always a bit of a misfit, doesn't expect life to change much when she moves from sunny Arizona to rainy Washington State. Then she meets Edward Cullen a handsome but mysterious teen whose eyes seem to peer directly into her soul. Edward is a vampire whose family does not drink blood, and Bella, far from being frightened, enters into a dangerous romance with her immortal soul mate.

Here we have two teens that are facing the same trials teens’ face today.

- Mix of emotions

- Bodies changing

- More hormones than brains

- Confusion between what their heart thinks it is saying and where their moral compass is pointing.

I always hated the phrase – Listen to your heart!

Why? The heart is only accepting what the brain has been pondering.

How does your body know how to do something, whether it is a sin or not?

 

The truth is that if you think about something long enough, your heart gets convinced then your body acts.

This is why Paul wrote to us:

Romans 12:2

2Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.

Follow that with James’ writing:

James 1:15

15Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full grown, gives birth to death.

The Message puts it a little more graphic:

15Lust gets pregnant, and has a baby: sin! Sin grows up to adulthood, and becomes a real killer.

 

People do not wake up one day and decide to be a mass murder. They entertain the idea then they continue to ponder on it until the heart accepts it and then they start making room for a plan to come into action.

 

Going back to our teenage lovebirds in Twilight we see that what they are experiencing is a thing called OBSESSION.

They are obsessed with each other.

What does the Bible say about obsession? Especially when it comes to our sexual desires.

 

Our sexual awareness is always being heightened by the world. It is in our commercials, billboards, and movies it’s even in video games.

Not to mention that the Internet is saturated with pornography. The sexual concentration and temptation is always there and always real.

 

We live in a sex-saturated society. Parents you would be a fool to think that your child is not, does not have or desire to indulge in their sexual desire. It is your job to be their parent, not their friend, and keep them accountable.

Is it uncomfortable – Yes

Is it a little embarrassing – Yes

But I would rather sacrifice my comfort than have my child live a life of regret. Not to mention that I am going to have to answer for my family when I meet God face to face.   

 

Here’s the question for today?

How do I honor God in a sex-saturated society?

         Without seeming like a self-righteous holy roller.

         Without seeming disconnected from the world.

1 Thessalonians 4:3-8

3It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; 4that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, 5not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; 6and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you. 7For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. 8Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his Holy Spirit.

 

Summation: We honor God by not corrupting what he has designed.

Colossians 3:5

5Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry.

 

Put it to death means, do not let it exist in you anymore!

Why? The closer we get to the edge the more dangerous we become!

 

When we want to draw closer to the edge of what we are obsessed over the more apt we are to satisfy that desire.

When we become obsessed we lose sight of who we are in God!

 

Obsession makes us do crazy things.

 

When I was a teen, I was obsessed over who is now my wife. I lived 10 miles from her house.  I didn’t have a car or buddies with cars. She had a car but she didn’t like me so she wasn’t going to come get me! So, when I want to be around her I would run up to her house. I mean literally run the tem miles up and when she rejected me the only thing I had left to do was run back! I was obsessed with her!

 

We set aside everything else including God and we feed our obsession. In my case it was my sanity!

 

When it comes to obsessions dealing with sex, relationships, and people in general there are all kinds of advice out there!

-You have the people who speak out of emotion. (Good, bad or indifferent)

- You have people who speak out of hopefulness. (They wish for a perfect world)

-You have people who speak out of emptiness – Not a clue!!

 

Here is some advice you might have received before:

It’s only human to want to have sex!

It’s natural function of the body!

 

Both of these statements are very true! But with the understanding of two very important factors:

1 – God created sex – It is His creation NOT ours! We are not entitled to anything. It is a gift He gave to us to use at the appropriate time and with the appropriate person. It is not our right to use/abuse or to partake in, in any way shape or form we deem necessary.

2 – Enjoy now- Pay later! You will live your life in regret the rest of your life knowing that as a child of God you tarnished His Sacred Gift!

The Bible is our handbook for life SO…Let’s look at what it says about obsession!

Judges 14:1-7

1Samson went down to Timnah and saw there a young Philistine woman. 2When he returned, he said to his father and mother, “I have seen a Philistine woman in Timnah; now get her for me as my wife.”

3His father and mother replied, “Isn’t there an acceptable woman among your relatives or among all our people? Must you go to the uncircumcised Philistines to get a wife?” But Samson said to his father, “Get her for me. She’s the right one for me.” 4(His parents did not know that this was from the LORD, who was seeking an occasion to confront the Philistines; for at that time they were ruling over Israel.)

Sampson’s mom could not have a baby – God gave her one and told her he was setting him aside to do great things.

Now look at this verse: Sampson tells his parents, “I have seen this women…She is right for me!!” DUDE…You haven’t even met her yet!

 

5Samson went down to Timnah together with his father and mother. As they approached the vineyards of Timnah, suddenly a young lion came roaring toward him. 6The Spirit of the LORD came upon him in power so that he tore the lion apart with his bare hands as he might have torn a young goat. But he told neither his father nor his mother what he had done. 7Then he went down and talked with the woman, and he liked her.

 

Verses 5-7 remember when I said obsession would make you do crazy things!! Like tearing a lion apart!!

 

I bet you every person here can relate to Sampson at some level. (Besides the whole Lion tearing part) We have obsessed over someone, something or some situation!

Sexual obsession is the strongest of all, in my opinion. I think it is because it is so prevalent in our society.

 

Sexual obsession can and will mess up your walk with God. Not to the point where He can’t use you but to the point where you don’t allow him to continue using you 100%

 

Getting back to Sampson…His wife died and then his eye fell for another girl!

 

Judges 16:4-5

4Some time later, he fell in love with a woman in the Valley of Sorek whose name was Delilah. 5The rulers of the Philistines went to her and said, “See if you can lure him into showing you the secret of his great strength and how we can overpower him so we may tie him up and subdue him. Each one of us will give you eleven hundred shekels of silver.”

 

Here we see Dililah obsessed with monetary value. She replaced the love in her marriage with money!

 

You know people do not fall out of love. It is impossible! What they do is replace the love with the love for something else.

 

Read what Paul tells Timothy:

 

2Timothy 3:1-4

1But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. 2People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, 4treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God—

 

You see, you never lose love it just gets replaced.

 

Summation of the rest of the story: Sampson gives in after being nagged, and tells her the source of his strength.  – He was obsessed with the women so even what was sacred to him he turned over to her even after having been tricked multiple times.

 

In the end his obsession was his ruin!

 

Sampson had tunnel vision paved with selfish desires and intentions.

He lost sight of who he was. He forgot that he was set aside for God’s purposes.

 

Don’t become so obsessed with sex, relationships, and other worldly things that you lose sight of who you really are.

Parents teach your kids about sex, relationships and keep them accountable.

 

The excuse that you can’t because you didn’t do it right or because you failed at this in life is not a valid excuse.

Some of life’s greatest lessons come from those who have failed at something.

Knowledge is learning from your own mistakes, wisdom is learning from others! Impart wisdom to your kids!

 

Until Next Time…Shalom!


 
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