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Alone at Christmas

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In 1965 Charley Brown’s Christmas came into existence, with characters that were known and loved 10-15 years prior, such as Charlie Brown, Snoopy, Schroeder, Lucy, Linus, PigPen, and Sally.

            Christmastime is here, Happiness and cheer. And for Peanuts fans everywhere, it just wouldn't be Christmas without this classic holiday delight. Christmas lights may be twinkling red and green, but Charlie Brown has the Yuletide blues. To get in the holiday spirit, he takes Lucy's advice and directs the Christmas play. And what's a Christmas play without a Christmas tree? But everyone makes fun of the short, spindly never-green Charlie Brown brings back - until the real meaning of Christmas works its magic once again.

In this classic Christmas tale we are entertained by the fun and joking. We are enthralled with the relationships that seem to be emerging and we are sadden by the Christmas blues that do not last, but once again lift our spirits as the magic of Christmas returns.

Charlie Brown is diagnosed by Lucy, who is a woman’s rights supporter with the life-long goal of becoming president or queen, that he has pantophobia – The fear of everything!!

In life we will experience two types of fears:

Good fears: Rotating blade on a lawnmower, not crossing the street without looking, the fear you get when hooking up an outlet in your house…. These fears are good fears because they keep us from danger or harm.

Bad Fears: This is anything that we allow to paralyze us and keep us from going after what God has called us too!

A study was done and it has been concluded that in the Bible there are 365 times where it is stated, “Fear Not” or “Do not be afraid”

Look at the Christmas story where the angel approaches these people.

Mary: Fear Not

Joseph: Fear Not

Shepherds: Fear Not

We think that fear is produced because of a particular circumstance we currently face, but when we read the Bible we see that this is not true.

Consider the following:

- Moses sends 12 men out to scope the land that God has promised them. 10 respond out of fear the other 2 out of faith, both in the same situation but with two different responses.

- David went to see his brothers on the battlefield. Asks what is going on and the soldiers told him that there was a giant of a man that was calling them out. David picked up 5 smooth stones and responded out of faith whereas the mighty army responded out of fear. Again both were in the same situation.

- Jesus and his disciples were in a boat and a storm came. The disciples responded out of fear, “We are all going to die” Jesus responded out of faith and then rebuked them for their lack of faith. They were all in the same boat, in the same situation and the responses were very different.

I want to look at one in particular fear today that really gets a lot of attention this time of year. That is the fear of being alone.

We have all experienced this fear at some point in our lives whether it was due to a break up in a relationship, divorce, kids grown and gone, being single in a married world, or not being home for the holidays.

These situations can create a certain feeling of aloneness in our lives. We create this fear of being alone and we think it is a product of our circumstances.

“I am lonely because I am alone”

Being lonely and being alone are two different actions.

Being lonely is a response to a circumstance. It is possible to be alone without being lonely and lonely with out being alone.

You can be married and still be lonely

You can be surrounded by family and still experience loneliness

Aloneness is a situation we sometimes find ourselves in for a myriad of reasons as mentioned before.

-Break up in a relationship, divorce, kids are grown and gone, being single in a married world, or not being home for the holidays, loss of loved ones.

We hate to feel aloneness but aloneness can be a wonderful gift from God. It can allow our experience with God to be elevated because it opens doors for intimacy with Him.

How do we deal with aloneness?

  1. Self-medicate: Alcohol, porn, TV, Unhealthy relationship, shopping therapy.
    1. Result: Move from aloneness to loneliness
  2. Embrace the reality: It is impossible to fill the void by ourselves.  Need to get to the core of why we are alone and need something bigger and stronger than we are to fill the void that has been left in us.
    1. Result: Draw closer to God because He is the only one who can fill that void!

There is nothing we can do to fix or fill our aloneness. Can’t do it by working more, drinking more, running more, pursuing relationships more…. nothing in our human power will suffice.

Most of us can relate to this and we know that this is true because we have been there done that! Some of us also know that when we do not allow God to fill that void we actually experience an adverse outcome. Instead of feeling less alone we actually become lonely.

There is a profound connection between our aloneness and God’s promise to never leave us nor forsake us.

Go back to the first Christmas, there were a lot of people who experienced aloneness.

Mary – Young teenager was just told she was going to give birth and she has never even been with a man. She knew the consequences, the results, of her telling people. She knew she was about to be disowned and rejected by everyone including her family. Don’t you think she felt alone?

Joseph – Feeling betrayed by Mary’s news knows he has to divorce her. What does this say about him and how people are going to look and treat him? I am sure Joseph felt alone.

Matthew 1:18-25

The very name of Jesus means – GOD WITH US! Do you see the impracticality of “being alone” and Jesus’ name?

Personally, I think we miss the main point about Jesus’ incarnation (Birth). We sometimes look at it as a means to get Him to the cross.  When we do this we actually create a means to the end. This is not what His birth was all about.

Jesus’ birth is God’s declaration to be with us. To be with us to show us how to live, how to treat people, how to govern ourselves and when He built this lasting relationship He showed us how much He loved us by dying on the cross thereby paying for the sin we committed. He was sinless but suffered as if he was the worst sinner. Why? So we would never be alone and so we could spend eternity with him.

God never promised that we would never experience a degree of aloneness but He did tell us that He would never leave us nor forsake us.

When Moses died Joshua took over. I can only imagine the amount of aloneness Joshua felt at that time.

1 – His friend/mentor died

2 – Leading can sometimes leave a leader to feel very alone at times.

Look at the promise God gave Joshua through Moses:

Deuteronomy 31:8

The promise of scripture is that God will never leave us nor forsake us even in the midst of our aloneness.

How might your life be different if you invited God into the midst of your aloneness?

As crazy as it might seem or hard to believe that the Almighty God who created the heavens and the Earth, wants, desires to be with you, especially in the midst of your aloneness. He is Immanuel – God with us!

How might your life be different if you allowed genuine, authentic Christians into your aloneness?

You see the incarnation ministry of Jesus is to be carried out by us, the body of Christ, the church.

How might your life be different if you were involved in someone else’s aloneness?

Not in a creepy awkward way but just in a way where they felt loved and cared for as they go through their aloneness.

I love to run. Sometimes when I am out on a long run, which, are meant to be slow and grueling at times, I wish I had someone to run with. I wish my son were with me to keep me motivated through the many miles because it helps time pass and keep me from quitting earlier than I should!

What if we treated life like this? We get along someone or have people come alongside us to help us through the grueling parts and help keep us motivated to keep going when we feel like quitting?

I hope you would consider calling upon God to help fill that void and ask Him to send people in your life that will help you through the rough patches.

You can also help get through your aloneness by getting involved with social activities such as the church, join or start a small group or simply call someone!

Be the person who is going to say, “ I am not the guy/gal to do this aloneness, alone!”

Until Next time…Shalom

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